FINDING HOME IN A NEW CITY

May 22, 2016

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Finding your way in a new city isn’t always easy. I came to New York City five years ago from a small, quaint town in California. I didn’t know the city, or anyone in it. And after all this time—through the cycles of friends, jobs, boyfriends, and opportunities—I’m still finding my footing. In a city like New York, some people never feel fully comfortable. And maybe that’s the thrill of it. But here are some tips and tricks to ease the transition.

1) Your Apartment

Don’t underestimate the importance of your living space, because the environment you come home to will make or break you. So don’t settle. Don’t settle on the roommates. Don’t settle on the apartment. Don’t settle on the location. Apartment hunting in a new city is the absolute worst. And while we all want to get it over with as quickly as possible, you might end up paying for it in the long run. No matter what your budget is, take your time until you find something that feels right.

2) Little Luxuries

Indulge in lifestyle luxuries that will affect your quality of life. For me, it was the gym. It took me years to finally get myself to pay the big bucks for a really nice gym. But these little things will increase your overall happiness and sense of “home.”

3) Inside the City

Everyone will tell you to explore a new city. And yes, you should! You should never stop exploring. But what’s equally as important, especially at first, is finding those neighborhood spots you love. Find “your” coffee shop, “your” pizza joint, “your” bookstore. It creates a sense of community.

4) Get Social

Over time you will make friends naturally, but it can be lonely at first. Not the type to make friends with the person next to you at the coffee shop? You’re not alone! Dating apps are actually a great way to get social when you don’t know anyone. Going on dates will get you in the mindset of getting out and socializing—even if you’re not looking for anyone “special”. But hey, you never know!

5) Trial and Error

It will take time to figure out what works for you. Maybe living uptown made you realize you want to live downtown. Or maybe getting a studio made you realize you’d rather live with people. It’s all part of the learning process, and even the worst of times are stepping stones to the best of times.

This post was inspired by a visit to 365 Bond, a brand new luxury apartment building in Gowanus, Brooklyn. From the untouched gym, to the freshly painted lobby, to the rooftop overlooking the skyline—everything about 365 Bond emulated a clean start in this city.

photos by Daniel Riley

37 Comments

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  • Reply khanhpi June 24, 2016 at 8:39 AM

    The suit looks so perfect on you :)

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  • Reply CATARINA MORAIS May 26, 2016 at 3:18 PM

    Love all the photos!
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  • Reply Anastasia Nicole May 25, 2016 at 7:22 PM

    Beautiful photos as usual love. Everything you said is so true. You have to take the time to make your home in a new city, YOUR home.

  • Reply Flora May 25, 2016 at 4:10 AM

    You a right – a new home can be hard sometimes, but it will work you. For sure :)
    Your outfit is on point!

  • Reply Kira May 25, 2016 at 3:42 AM

    You look simply stunning! And that choker is so on point!
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  • Reply PutAllOnMe May 25, 2016 at 3:33 AM

    Wow girl these photos are amazing and you look great! :)
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  • Reply Violette May 25, 2016 at 2:20 AM

    I’ve experiences this kind situation once and loved it! It’s so challenging and exciting!

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  • Reply Falasha May 24, 2016 at 10:03 PM

    Love your choker and great tips, I love moving but now I feel really at home in my newest city.

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  • Reply Simplicity is Chic May 24, 2016 at 9:19 PM

    I really enjoy what you wrote.
    Those are the musts… but everything resumes to trial and error :)

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  • Reply Rina May 24, 2016 at 5:30 PM

    Loving what you had to share in this post. I can’t imagine how scary but also exciting it may feel moving to a new city, especially one as big as New York. I would love to live there. I’ve visited a couple of times now and can’t get enough.

    Thanks for sharing!

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  • Reply Tamara May 24, 2016 at 12:52 PM

    I moved 2 years ago to San Francisco and even though I know a lot about it now, there’s still so much to discover. Nothing beats finding a special place that you can call “yours”. I really enjoyed this post!

    XoXo,

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  • Reply sanssouci May 24, 2016 at 2:24 AM

    I’ve experienced tho situation twice, once in another city and once in another country and your points are absolutely accurate! Love your outfit and images babe!
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  • Reply carolina May 23, 2016 at 8:30 PM

    Great post! i have wanted to move to new york my entire life, the older i get the more i see it as a possibility

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  • Reply IMAN May 23, 2016 at 5:31 PM

    Agreed! Having moved across the Atlantic last year, I especially relate to 2 and 5. And love your sunnies!
    Much love xx

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  • Reply Lauren Nakagawa May 23, 2016 at 5:26 PM

    It’s an exciting time :) I felt the same way about LA a long time ago. I hope you find what you’re looking for in NYC.

    xx
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  • Reply Taylor May 23, 2016 at 5:20 PM

    LOVE this look, so chic!
    Also obsessed with your glasses.
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  • Reply Vittoria May 23, 2016 at 4:57 PM

    if those glasses are prada, i think i just bought the same pair! #greatminds

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  • Reply Miriam May 23, 2016 at 3:30 PM

    I looooove the pictures!!! Perfection!
    you look amazing

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  • Reply Lindsey May 23, 2016 at 3:02 PM

    Great tips, it can always be nerve racking moving to a new place.

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  • Reply Lizza May 23, 2016 at 2:32 PM

    Great post and tips! Good job girl

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  • Reply Joyce May 23, 2016 at 2:18 PM

    I can relate to this post since I moved to NYC about three years ago! I totally agree with you on the little luxuries and finding your own spots. I feel like in NYC you can definitely get restaurant/neighborhood/cafe/bar ADD because there are endless options to explore, but I always love being able to find places that I want to return to again and again. Thanks for all these tips!

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  • Reply The Fashion Folks May 23, 2016 at 1:42 PM

    So many great tips, creating a home you’re in love with is a go-to! Xx

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  • Reply Rachel May 23, 2016 at 1:33 PM

    You look so cool and stylish! Beautiful photos!

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  • Reply emily May 23, 2016 at 9:57 AM

    Some really good tips! Love this outfit too!
    x Emily
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  • Reply Alanda May 23, 2016 at 5:59 AM

    Perfect post babe

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    xxxx

  • Reply Janet May 23, 2016 at 5:14 AM

    We have to get through the efforts to achieve our home.

  • Reply Keri May 23, 2016 at 1:04 AM

    Perfect tips. Moving that far is definitely an adjustment but it seems like you really made nye your home :)

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  • Reply Erin May 22, 2016 at 11:38 PM

    Loving reading your experience and tips! Thanks for sharing! You look like you’ve adapted so well and NY is so natural on you. xx, Erin – http://www.stylebythepeople.com

  • Reply Raysa Garcia May 22, 2016 at 8:37 PM

    Great post so inspiring! Love your outfit.
    Kisses, Raysa

  • Reply Nora May 22, 2016 at 8:11 PM

    I’m at the stage where I think I need to make the move in search for job opportunities that are more orientated to what I want to do. This post makes me feel a little better but it’s still such a scary decision!

    X

  • Reply Yulia May 22, 2016 at 5:32 PM

    What a great post!:) It’s been a while since I last moved to another city, but I totally agree with everything you pointed here. Thanks for sharing these tips and beautiful photos:)

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  • Reply vera May 22, 2016 at 5:21 PM

    Beautiful photos!!

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  • Reply Elements of Ellis May 22, 2016 at 1:20 PM

    I’m so amazed at how people can move to a new city! I’m from a small town in California too and moved a couple hours away to another small-ish town, but I’m such a homebody so I don’t get out much. lol.

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  • Reply Sophie May 22, 2016 at 12:03 PM

    How did I possibly miss so many good posts? I couldn’t agree more with all of the above mentioned tips! Especially finding your coffee shop, your pizza place etc. always really helps to feel more at home in a new city!

    Sophie xx
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  • Reply Sia Foch May 22, 2016 at 11:38 AM

    Oh, Lily, your posts are my inspiration! it’s about your Insta and blog, you always know how to mix different styles and moods! Big fan:)

    -xx, Sia

  • Reply Siffat Haider May 22, 2016 at 11:34 AM

    Amazing amazing outfit!
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